Differing opinions: There’s a significant disagreement or clash of perspectives
High stakes: The outcome of the conversation matters a lot to you and the other person(s) involved
Strong emotions: People involved may feel anger, frustration, fear, or sadness, making it difficult to communicate effectively.
Notes to self:
They are inevitable: Everyone experiences them, so don’t avoid them.
Preparation is key: Take time to think about your goals, the other person’s perspective, and potential challenges
Focus on understanding, not winning: Listen actively and try to see things from the other person’s point of view
Manage your emotions: Don’t let anger or frustration cloud your judgment
Focus on common ground: Look for areas where you agree and build on those
Be respectful: Treat the other person well
Before the conversation:
Prepare: Take time to understand the situation, your goals, and the other person’s perspective. Consider potential challenges and how you might address them.
Choose the right time and place: Ensure a private and respectful environment where both parties can engage comfortably and openly.
Decide your desired outcome: What do you hope to achieve from this conversation? Be clear on your own needs and boundaries.
During the conversation:
Start with safety: Create a space where both parties feel comfortable and heard. Express empathy and a willingness to understand
State your path: Clearly and concisely articulate your perspective and needs
Explore their path: Actively listen to understand their point of view. Ask clarifying questions and paraphrase their thoughts to demonstrate understanding
Move to action: Work collaboratively to find solutions or agreements that address both your needs. This could involve compromise, finding common ground, or agreeing to disagree respectfully
